My daughter is getting married. Someday I will write a blog about how I feel about the precious little girl who used to sing and dance and put on shows for us getting married, but today I am reflecting on the evening we spent this week choosing decorations for her reception.
She and her fiancé had a group of people with them. In addition to me, her sister (and Maid of Honor) and several of their friends came along to offer suggestions on everything from the food to the lighting to the centerpieces. It was fun, but it was also a little overwhelming. Sometimes too many opinions make it hard to make a decision.
As we looked as centerpieces, I kept asking myself, “Are you overthinking this?”
Life is complicated. I would never pretend otherwise, but sometimes we make it more complicated than we should. Choose a centerpiece. Decide on the lighting. Pick the turkey over the pork. In the end, those choices will not matter as much as the marriage. Don’t overthink it.
In our lives we make big decisions and small decisions every day. We choose little things like what we will wear each morning and what we will eat for breakfast, and we make big plans for trips or new hobbies or changing careers. While it is important to be reflective and planful, it is also possible to overthink things.
In my family, we tend to make the big (and expensive) decisions quickly and obsess about the little ones. We made the decision to buy our house in five days and a new car in less than a week, but it took almost two years to choose a vacuum. I might overthink things.
Sometimes we sabotage our happiness by obsessing over every little thing. Instead of embracing the moment, we fixate on the things that aren’t perfect. Instead of being grateful, we worry.
I am not advocating reckless abandon, but I am suggesting that we should take a leap every now and then. Life should be enjoyed. If we spend too much time overthinking it, we are likely missing out on some of the fun.