I hit a major milestone this week in a goal I’ve been pursuing all year. I walk. This year I’ve been walking a lot. I’m working toward a mileage goal, and it took me until the last day in August to be on track to hit the goal. I’ve been behind for 8 months. Eight months! And I honestly have no idea if I can stay on track for the rest of the year. But I’m there right now.
I’m part of an online community all working toward this goal. I’ve been watching person after person hit the year-end goal all summer. Most of the people in this community are runners. The other people I know personally working on the goal are runners. Good runners. They finish miles so much faster than I do. It can be frustrating at times.
It’s hard to set a goal, work toward that goal, and watch so many other people beat you to the goal. But such is life. No matter how fast you are, someone is always faster.
“Comparison is the thief of joy.” I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again. Okay Theodore Roosevelt said it, but I’ve agreed with him many times.
Our goals are our goals.
I spend too much time wishing I was a runner. The runners I know are amazing! They are dedicated, passionate, motivated. They have cool running gear, and they talk a lot about shoes and watches. They are fit. Man are they fit. It is impressive.
I walk. I walk a lot. That’s what I can do. And I can certainly get cool walking gear and talk about shoes and watches. And I can be dedicated and passionate and motivated.
Our goals are our goals.
The only person we are meant to compare ourselves to is the person we were the day before. We do not have to be faster or thinner or wealthier than anyone. We do not have to have a better job or a bigger house or a fancier car to be worthy.
Our goals are our goals.
I have some good friends who are competitive. Several even have competition in their top five Gallup strengths. Competition is different from personal comparison.
Competition can be healthy. It can show us what’s possible. It can push us and challenge us to be better than we ever thought we could be. I’m not discouraging competition, but we should not be judging ourselves based on a comparison with others.
I am enough. You are enough. Right now. Just as we are.
So set some goals that will be hard to reach. Challenge yourself to go farther or faster than you thought you could. But appreciate yourself for who you are and what you bring to the world. Just the way you are.
Another great piece!
Thanks Kelli!
Love you, Karla!